Ask For Help

Ask For Help: A Sign of Strength

For a long time, I took great pride in never needing to rely on others. As a conflict-avoidant people-pleaser, I would often pride myself on never allowing myself to rely on others. I certainly wouldn’t let myself burden somebody else with my struggles.

However, I’ve come to realize how silly – and harmful – this mentality was. I’ve learned to reframe asking for help as a sign of strength, rather than weakness. In this post, I’ll explore why asking for help is a sign of intelligence and strength, and how it can benefit you in various aspects of your life.

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Asking for Help is a Sign of Strength

One of the most powerful reminders of this concept is the story of Aragorn, the manliest man ever (okay, he’s Numenorean and part-elf, but you know what I mean). Even Aragorn, a hero known for his bravery and leadership, leaned on his friends for help when he needed it. This realization inspired me to start therapy, and I’d like to share why I believe asking for help is a sign of strength.

Asking for Help is a Super Power

I recently stumbled upon a video that brought a massive smile to my face. A powerlifter/personal trainer named Sherein Abdelhady was filming herself doing heavy deadlifts in a commercial gym, and a random dude approached her between sets and asked if she could teach him how to deadlift. His request was polite and respectful, and Abdelhady was more than happy to help! As a result, this guy learned how to deadlift from somebody who knew much more than he did in that area, and now he’ll have a better experience and probably save himself from injury for the rest of his life.

This interaction highlights the superpower of asking for help. When we ask for help, we’re not weak; we’re strong and willing to learn. This willingness to learn and improve is what sets us apart from others who may struggle to ask for help due to pride or fear.

Asking for Help is a Super Power: Conclusion

Asking for help is a sign of strength, intelligence, and willingness to learn. It’s a superpower that allows us to grow, improve, and achieve our goals. I’d like to leave you with one final thought before I ask you for a request. When I ask for help, I often follow it up with “I owe you one.” However, I’ve learned that this isn’t necessary. Instead, I simply thank the person for their help, knowing that I would gladly help them without expecting a favor in return.

FAQs:

Q: Why do I need to ask for help when I can figure it out on my own?
A: Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. By asking for help, you’re showing that you’re willing to learn and improve, which is a much more powerful trait than trying to figure everything out on your own.

Q: How do I reframe asking for help in a more positive light?
A: Start by acknowledging that asking for help is a normal and necessary part of life. Remind yourself that everyone needs help at some point, and that it’s okay to ask for it. Also, try to focus on the benefits of asking for help, such as gaining new knowledge, improving your skills, and building stronger relationships.

Q: Can I ask for help too much?
A: Yes, it’s possible to ask for help too much. However, it’s also important to recognize that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength. If you’re struggling to ask for help due to fear or pride, it may be helpful to reframe your mindset and focus on the benefits of asking for help.

Q: How do I know if I’m asking for help too much?
A: If you find yourself consistently relying on others for help without putting in any effort yourself, you may be asking for help too much. It’s important to strike a balance between asking for help and taking responsibility for your own actions.